It is difficult to say goodbye to someone or something you really love. It is a strain on the feelings and to those of us who feel and allow emotions to flow freely, there is a certain sad sweetness when we say goodbye. What is referred to here is when we say goodbye permanently, or semi-permanently; that is when we do not expect to see the person soon or perhaps ever again. When we grow to love someone, we form a wholeness with that person; when we say goodbye, that wholeness is broken& it is as if a part of us is wrenched away.
The hardest situation in which to say goodbye is when we are bidding farewell to a loved one who has gonefrom this world. I guess wakes &funeral rites were probably formulated so that we can make this goodbye emotionally tolerable. A great deal of holinessis thrown over the related rituals, which appear to be formulated in order to honour the departed one and to ensure his/her place in the next world. Let's put aside such beliefs, as for me, I see that the rituals were probably created so that we can console ourselves when we say goodbye. Don't you think so? The tide and sadness tears that we manage to hold back , usually burst out when the rituals are over & stark reality- that we will nvr see our beloved again- thrusts itself on us. Such goodbyes, are heart wrenching indeed. Saying goodbye to my beloved late grandmother which left this world for good on the 23rd March, was really tough one for me. Especially when I didn't get the chance to see her when she open her eyes the day before she left. I just couldn't believe that she's gone so soon. Now, I can still feel her presence. However, i just have to get the fact that she's no longer here. And what is left for us; the family members, is to pray for her well-being on the next world. Now, the only thing we get to keep is only the memories that she left behind, is just unforgettable to us. ):
well, moving on to the other 'goodbye'.....
Breaking up with someone who has been a beloved over a period of time is another sad goodbye. Some of us are 'old-fashioned' enough to put in our all into a relationship. It is really devastating when we realize that the other party to the relationship has been frivolous about it & has been restraining himself or herself. It is even more devastating when the relationship has been strong on both sides & when we have to break up because of circumstances; as in the case when one party leaves the country for good because his\her parents decide to send them over, often in such cases, i see posibility that the goodbye marks the end of a stage of a life & the beginning of another. Also, we may often see the person we saying goodbye to again. However the situation is not the same. For example, when a close friend or neighbour leaves for another neighbourhood , it is possible to continue seeing the neighbour, but it is the same thing? Can we still be as close as before? Can we still exchange food? Can we do almost everything that we used to do?Certainly not without special effort. The goodbye here is to a person as well as to a certain lovable situation.
It is true that gdbyes are just another way of saying "see you soon!' Naturally, I think in such cases gdbyesto fuss abt. But 'real' goodbyes are painful if not devastating. Yet, there is sweetness abt it all that we cannot explain. Right?
I've come to the end of my entry. So sorry for the wordy entry, But i hope all of u like what i've put up here. And this post is specially made for my late grandmother): Let's take some time off for now to reminisce the moments that we have spent with our loved ones that has left us.
